When, owning a pet eventually we have to deal with the death of that pet. In 2017, I have had two of my senior dogs to die. This happened about two months apart. Some people look at dogs as just as pets but mine were part of the family.
When a pet dies it is hard on the person or family that loved them. You miss the little things they used to, or hearing them bark. These pets become a part of our daily lives.
The grieving process is different for everyone. It may last a day or up to years.
Give Yourself Time To Grieve
The grieving process can happen gradually. There is no timetable for grieving. Some people start to feel better in a few days, weeks, or months. For others, it could be years. It is important to be patient with yourself and allow the process to happen naturally.
Feeling sad, shocked, or lonely is a normal reaction to the loss of a beloved pet. These feelings do not mean you are weak it is natural during the grieving process. It just means that you are mourning the loss of an animal you loved.
For real healing, it is necessary for you to face your grief and deal with it. By expressing your grief, you will most likely need less time to heal. If you withhold your feelings or keep them in, it will slow down the healing process.
Feeling guilty can also be part of the greiving process. There comes a time in some of our lives that we have to make a choice. We have to have the vet put our dog to sleep. Most people feel guilty about having to do this.
The vet will let you know if this is the right choice for your pet. You just have to realize that you are doing it out of love for your pet. No need to let your pet suffer if there is no way to fix the problem. I have had to make this decision more than once. It is a very hard decision to make.
My advice to you is: if you have to make this decision stay with your pet until the end. It may be very hard to do, but in the long run you will be glad you did.
Some Ways To Help With The Grieving Process
Do not let anyone tell you how to feel, and do not be hard on yourself for how you feel either. Your grief belongs to you, and no one else can tell you how long this process will take. Do not be embarrassed or feel like you are being judged about your feelings. It is okay to be angry, to cry or not to cry, to laugh, to find moments of joy. You will let go when you are ready.
It is also good if you have a friend or family member to reach out to. But if you do not; you can also ask your local vet if there is a support group in your area. If there is not a support group; there is also pet loss hot lines that you can call.
Here area couple of the Numbers. Pet Loss Support:1-(866) 266-8635 or (509) 335-5704; Pet Loss – Rainbow Bridge 877-GRIEF-10 or (877-474-3310).
Prepare a memorial, plant a tree in memory of your pet, compiling a photo album or scrapbook to celebrate the life of your pet. Remembering the fun and love you shared with your pet can help you to slowly move on.
Remember if you have other pets, they need you too. Some, surviving pets may also experience loss when a pet dies. They could also be stressed because they know you are sad. Maintain your daily routines with your pets; you could even increase exercise and play times. This will not only benefit your pets but it can also help you to get through this hard time.
When To Get A New Pet
I personally think this is up to the individual. A lot of experts say you should wait until you are finished greiving your lost pet. Some may wait months, years, or never get a new pet. Then there are others that need something to take care of.
For people who only had the one pet; miss having something to be responsible for and care for. If you feel like getting a new pet soon after the death of your pet; I do not see anything wrong with that. If getting a new pet will help you get through the greiving process, then do not let anyone discourage you from doing so.
Losing a family pet it never easy. The longer you have them the more they become family. Grieving is a natural process and can take time. Try not to let others tell you how to grieve or how long to grieve. We are all different and process things differently. You will know when the process is over and if you are ready to get another pet.
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